To Be or to Become?

Are We Born Who We Are Meant to Be? Or Do We Become That Person As Life Progresses?

Tami Shaikh
4 min readOct 18, 2021

I’ve always wondered are we born with our talents, or do they come to us as life takes us through the mazes of becoming ourselves? Are we who we were at birth, or do we come into ourselves as life progresses? These are the questions that I ask myself and other people daily, and most everyone answers it differently, with a certain amount of personal philosophy behind it. Usually I feel unsure but deep down, I do know something about these questions- I’m someone who was born with a strong desire to do something, not for someone else but for my own sanity; I love telling stories.

Stories, stories and more stories filled my head.

On the other hand, the discouragement of not being an academically (in the field of science) gifted child always stuck with me. I felt like a loser and made no friends because if I couldn’t get good grades and couldn’t please my parents; how was I worthy of love from others? How did I deserve to be heard or seen? How did I deserve to have my own thoughts?

I was a very introverted child. I didn’t trust that my voice would be heard or even understood. Why should I? Other people’s opinions of me were important, not mine. So instead of being seen for who I truly was, I stayed…

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Tami Shaikh

Author of 3 books, Contributor to Huffington Post, Thrive Global, & Chicken Soup for the Soul. Life is full of stories; I like to tell them. www.tamishaikh.com